Friday, January 5, 2007
The visit ended about an hour ago and was very successful...
...from everyone's point of view, I think. MPS was enchanted with the "winter" weather up here. Snow was threatened for this morning. A little fell. Now it's gone. Thoroughly disappointing for me. Awe inspiring for her. I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'm always surprised and grateful when I see our property through the eyes of others. Paradise is, indeed, just as easy to get used to as any other place.
MPS was surprised that my mother was "delighted" to see her. We talked a little about this. I joked that, because people don't see Mom that often, everyone thinks she's become that old lady that all family dramas contain. No chance, nor any such luck.
Since the storm was coming in yesterday afternoon, even though it didn't amount to much, it kept the atmospheric pressure bouncing, which it continues today. Thus, although Mom was, indeed, "delighted" and even more, that MPS was here, she also kept up with her "I'm feeling old" sleep schedule. She is doing the same today. MPS and I debated whether she should awaken Mom to say good-bye. We both decided against it. After a quick peek in on her, I didn't think she'd even register an attempted good-bye.
She mentioned the MPBIL is concerned about making sure he sees Mom "before she dies". I understand this, although, frankly, I can't remember ever feeling toward any of my relatives that I have a need to seem them between "now" and "when they die". I'm very familiar with others having this feeling, though, and some in connection with Mom. I often wonder what these visits accomplish for the one needing the visit, and, of course, if they accomplish anything for the one whose presence is sought. What do you say to someone you knew many years ago but don't know anymore?
Despite the consequences, whatever they were, I don't recall being raised around much of a "see 'em before they die" attitude toward relatives, even though our relationships with all our relatives were woven of distance and intrigue. You know the type:
The Mom's up. Gotta go.
More...
...later.
MPS was surprised that my mother was "delighted" to see her. We talked a little about this. I joked that, because people don't see Mom that often, everyone thinks she's become that old lady that all family dramas contain. No chance, nor any such luck.
Since the storm was coming in yesterday afternoon, even though it didn't amount to much, it kept the atmospheric pressure bouncing, which it continues today. Thus, although Mom was, indeed, "delighted" and even more, that MPS was here, she also kept up with her "I'm feeling old" sleep schedule. She is doing the same today. MPS and I debated whether she should awaken Mom to say good-bye. We both decided against it. After a quick peek in on her, I didn't think she'd even register an attempted good-bye.
She mentioned the MPBIL is concerned about making sure he sees Mom "before she dies". I understand this, although, frankly, I can't remember ever feeling toward any of my relatives that I have a need to seem them between "now" and "when they die". I'm very familiar with others having this feeling, though, and some in connection with Mom. I often wonder what these visits accomplish for the one needing the visit, and, of course, if they accomplish anything for the one whose presence is sought. What do you say to someone you knew many years ago but don't know anymore?
Despite the consequences, whatever they were, I don't recall being raised around much of a "see 'em before they die" attitude toward relatives, even though our relationships with all our relatives were woven of distance and intrigue. You know the type:
- Did you hear about the cousin, yes, that's right, not a niece, a cousin of hers who plays hill billy music on the guitar and whose parents are classically trained master musicians?
- You remember those cousins from Guam who don't know anything about school spirit? The hippies?
- Did you hear about her cousin's twin? That's right, died a few days after birth. Makes you wonder...
The Mom's up. Gotta go.
More...
...later.
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Originally posted by Karma: Fri Jan 05, 08:57:00 PM 2007
I found a similiar thing with Mom's relatives - well her nephews to be exact. They were all very cold with her, and I was so tempted to go try to explain that she's still their aunt. In turn, Mom didn't pay much attention to them because of their coldness, which I'm sure they took as a sign of her disease, but really it was her responding to them.
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I found a similiar thing with Mom's relatives - well her nephews to be exact. They were all very cold with her, and I was so tempted to go try to explain that she's still their aunt. In turn, Mom didn't pay much attention to them because of their coldness, which I'm sure they took as a sign of her disease, but really it was her responding to them.
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